Knowing how to attract a girl and what to talk about on a first date is a crucial skill for guys to learn, especially if they want to know how to get a girlfriend, not excluding you girls if you want to get a boyfriend.
I’m sure you want your date to have fun and you want to have fun, too! You want to ensure that the conversation is interesting and stimulating to both of you.
In this article you are going to learn:
- What to talk about on a date with a guy
- What to talk about on a date with a girl
- Topics to avoid
- And much,much more
Topics To Talk About On Date
Our initial impulse might be to pick up on a current event, some detail of the environment or a few impressive things about our careers. But I digress, lets talk about some basics first, that later on as we go on…
On Body Language…
Body language always speaks first in any conversation. When you are confident your body relaxes, becomes more open, you lean in, you smile, and you become more animated. When you are tense or not at ease with yourself, you will be sitting back, crossing your legs, maybe your arms, your mouth will barely break a smile, and your eyes will be searching elsewhere in the room. Knowing this will allow you to convey confidence with your body language.
Your verbal dating conversation skills will largely be judged on how able you are to create a conversation that your partner enjoys. Ultimately, that leads to you getting more dates. If you’re thinking this is obvious, yes it is! The question is HOW to create an interesting conversation.
Your dating conversation will be made up of you both asking and answering questions. If you ask the right questions, your partner is going to have fun. If you ask the wrong questions, they are going to ditch you. If you are evasive or less than honest when answering her questions, she is going to ditch you quicker.
What to Talk About On a Date With a Girl
Questions are powerful. Funny thing is that when a person is asked a direct question they somehow feel obligated to answer it. Here are some conversation starter question ideas for your first date:
A person’s hobbies are often a big part of who they are as a person.Ask her:
- What do you love to do in your spare time?
- What do you particularly enjoy about that?
- If you could go on a fantasy holiday, anywhere in the world, where would it be and what would you do?
1. Her Experiences
Her experiences have shaped her life. They make up her stories, influence her thought processes, and create her strongest memories.
So, when you get her to recall her positive and fun experiences, she’ll feel those positive and fun emotions during the conversation and associate them with you.
By asking these questions you will cause your date to recall pleasant past experiences and share them with you.
- Her Dreams And Ambitions (And What She Hopes To Achieve)
Get Her To Talk About Her Goals And Ambitions…
One thing that every girl has is fantasies. Things she hope and aspire to accomplish in her lifetime. Things she grown up thinking about when she was just a little girl.
Your job as the man, is to get her sharing these personal details with you.
Remember this: Women connect best to men who they share personal things with.
The more you allow her to share things with you like her dreams, her passion, her fears, the more she will begin to open up to you and become more interested in finding out things about YOU.
- Talk About Hangout Ideas
Talk about local date ideas and see if she expresses interest. If her mood light up when you bring up that new popular restaurant that opened up, you just got the green light to invite her out for dinner.
What She Loves to Do
When a girl tells you about what she loves to do, she’ll be flooded with positive emotions, and this will reflect positively on you. It can also provide you with future date ideas.
For example, if she loves to exercise, you can plan out a gym session together.
Here are some questions that can get you talking about what she loves to do:
- What kinds of things do you love to do?
- What kinds of activities do you most look forward to?
- Find Out Her Opinion On Life and How She Views The World…
The goal here is to get your date talking and sharing with you her opinion on current issues, news and how she see’s and views the world. .
Another reason to do this is to throw some humor into the conversation that you’re having with her so that it doesn’t get too deep and serious.
What To Talk About On a Date With a Guy
- Ask Questions About His Interests
Ask him to tell you a story about something he cares about, and listen. Whether you have shared interests or not, asking what makes him happy and what he does in his spare time is a great conversation-starter.
- Find Out About His Dreams
Some people have dreams where they try to cross something off every few years. Other people don’t have a formal dreams, just a few ideas of what they’d like to do. It’s awesome to find out what others would like to do, sometimes it can generate some new ideas for you as well!
- Talk about how he decided to go into this line of work
Talk about if he could have your dream job, what would it be. Few people are working their dream job. Even if someone really likes their job, usually there’s a thing or two that would make it better.
- Talk About What they Splurge On
There are people who love to clothes shop, others that have vast music or movie collections, others that go on a great trip once a year. This gives you a peek inside what the other person really enjoys.
- Talk About Food and culture
Begin with a simply phrased “Tell me about your favorite cuisine.” See what you learn. You will be amazed!Ask him do you like to cook and if so, what are your favorite things to cook. In short find out what types of cuisines he likes.
- Talk about their idea of a “good life.”
We all have an idea of what our ideal life would be. For you, maybe it’s owning a luxury car, travelling the world or getting out of debt. What is it for the person sitting across from you? ASK!
- Get creative.
Check in with yourself as the date is progressing. Do you like being there? Is this person amusing? See if you’re a good match
- Talk About Something Trending on the News
Find something that will engage you and your love in a meaningful conversation. Celebrities are always good for a robust dialogue, no matter how you feel about them.
- Share Funny Stories and Jokes
Share a hilarious story from your childhood. How about the latest joke from your favorite comedian.Lighten up the moment with humor, you will thank me later.
- Learn about their family and friends.
I left this one to be the last, why? Simply because most people are not really proud to open up about their families. You might spoil the mood if you bring up the topic early on.
For some of course it can spark the right mood, just be careful how you go about asking about their family. In fact I usually say talk about your families on the second date not the first. Leave that to be a mystery!
And finally, remember, you can always leave. Sometimes there’s just no spark, even after warming up to each other during a drink or meal. The date doesn’t have to drag on over any self-imposed sense of obligation.
Topics To Avoid On A Date
Now let’s take a look at a few topics you definitely want to avoid on a first date.
Your ex – Yes, your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend. Nobody likes hearing you complain about your ex and it’s definitely not going to get you any points on a first date.
Sex – Just no. Not on a first date. Plenty of time for this later if things go well.
Money – This is an area that can be a bit sensitive as well. Don’t want anyone thinking you’re bragging about how much you make nor it is great to initially discuss how you had to borrow $50 from your mom for this date.
Politics – I think this one pretty much goes without saying. This is a topic best left for later if the dates continue. Discussing politics on a first date is a big no no.
Religion – Honestly not too far behind politics. This subject can lead to many a heated debate. Leave it for now.
I hope you found this helpful.
After reading this, you should be fully prepared to have good, flirty, and fun conversations on your dates with girls and guys, as well as more easily leading them back to your place.
Now it’s time to put these topics into practice on your next date.
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